Mean girls note at Starbucks goes viral

A lady’s post on Facebook about buying mini frappucinos for three mean girls at Starbucks has gone viral. She overheard them dissing other girls from a talent show and complaining about receiving crappy presents. So she bought them the drinks, asked the barista to deliver them, and left.

The lady goes by the name Michelle in the Middle, and she is the author of “Middle School Makeover,” a book for parents of middle-schoolers. (Her Facebook page is here:

Her followups to the post is here:

Follow up to my post about the girls at Starbucks.

I left and went to do my grocery shopping, conflicted the whole time, and I could see the girls still sitting in Starbucks as I drove home. I ran into my house, grabbed a note card and wrote a quick, heartfelt note.

Then I ordered three mini frappucinos on my mobile app and headed back up to Starbucks. They were still there. I walked up to them and said, “Hi Girls. You don’t know me but it looks like you’re here studying and I wrote you a note of encouragement.” I handed them the card and walked away. (The drinks weren’t ready but the barista agreed to delivering them for me.)

I have terrible handwriting so if you can’t make it out:

“Hi Girls!

I sat near you today in Starbucks and listened as you talked. You three are obviously pretty and hard-working. I wish your kindness matched your pretty exteriors. I heard you talk about a girl who sang a song about being lonely in the talent show – and you laughed. About a girl who couldn’t be lead singer because you got all the votes, about crappy presents other people have given you…and you sounded so mean and petty.

You are smart and you are pretty. It would take nothing from you to also be kind. – M.”



I continue to be amazed by how far this story has reached and it has been heartwarming to get letters from so many women across the country telling me they have been on both sides of this equation, or used this story as a spark point for conversations with their daughters. Thank you.


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